It is possible to mend a broken relationship, but you also need to ask yourself whether or not it’s worth fixing in the first place. If you are in danger or are scared of your partner, it is important to confide in someone you trust and leave as soon as possible. But if you can’t find any redeeming qualities about your partner, it’s probably best to cut them off and move forward to find a relationship that’s more beneficial for you.
All relationships, especially long-term, go through hurdles and struggles. Even though you are not obligated to stay in the relationship, you will always choose first to try to fix it, especially when there are children involved. When you have decided to stay and rebuild your ties, here are 6 tips to keep in mind.
Sincerely forgive your partnerIt is difficult for many to forgive sincerely, more so to forget, but it is important. This is the first step to fix it. It is understandable that you cannot easily forgive your partner. But if you keep going back to the bad incident in your lives, it is better off that you separate permanently. You can’t keep a relationship without forgiveness and without letting go of past mistakes. Both of you should honestly believe that the other is working as hard as you are keeping your relationship intact.
Remind yourself of the other’s good qualities
If you are in no way had experienced a dangerous situation in your relationship (verbal or physical abuse), it would be good to reminisce the days in your relationship when you were still very in love with each other. Figure out what changed after. List them down and if it still makes you feel good remembering them, your relationship has hope. If you remember the bad qualities more than the good, and if you still feel upset after reminiscing the good times, you are off going separate ways.
- Consider Counseling
Getting help from a professional may be better in understanding your partner in many ways you have never thought possible. Getting relationship counseling makes proper communication and understanding better in moving forward. If you are ready to get help from a professional, click the Book a Consult link on the right.
Listen with The Right Intentions
We just feel the need to let everything out to our partners, and it is common that the other is not attentive. The feeling of being unheard in a relationship happens more often in any couple. Arguments turn into bigger problems because we do not open our ears to what our partner is saying.
- Be accountable
Many relationships take two people to break. Sure, one of you might be more guilty than the other given the situation, but there’s a chance you’re not completely innocent. Not everyone is expected to be perfect in a relationship, and often times heavy emotions cloud our decision-making skills. If you did something to escalate the situation, own it. Then, apologize for it.
It’s important to realize when you’re at fault for a situation. Only when you take accountability can you learn and grow. By recognizing that you’ve made a mistake, you’re less likely to make it again. Plus, your partner will see this as a mature step in the right direction.
- Go on a vacation
A trip or vacation doesn’t automatically solve your relationship issues, but a change of environment might do good for you. A trip is about rebuilding. Both of you needs to reset your relationship so you can move forward with a clean slate.
Just remember, relationships are not easy—they require maintenance to function at even the best of times. And every relationship and situation is a little different. There are many reasons why a relationship may break. If it’s due to infidelity or lack of trust, being able to move forward can be especially tough. If it’s because either you or your significant other has taken the relationship for granted, it may be a little easier to rebuild.